My Second Life, aka Retirement By Alan Wainer
On January 1st, I turned the page and started the next chapter of my life, also known as My Second Life.1 It was a day filled with a plethora of emotions: excitement, apprehension, relief, and anxiety, to name a few, but those emotions dissipated quite quickly. Why, may you ask? Quite simply, I had a plan. Thinking ahead and taking responsibility for my life didn’t change when I retired.
Retirement has two facets to it: your life plan and your financial plan. The focus of this article is on the former as it comes first (I leave it to you to figure out why). It will address the psychology of retirement from an emotional perspective.
Over six years ago, I started working with a life coach to help me become a better version of myself. What I learned from our discussions was how to articulate the need to align my passion, purpose, vision and values with the activities and goals that I choose to act on. This is no different when it comes to retirement.
My Plan or Planning
Having a plan would provide me with better odds of ensuring that I have a fulfilling and successful retirement. It would entail, as we accountants like to say, replacing the 1,800- 2,000 hours that we have devoted to our careers annually. As you can deduce, starting the process earlier gave me the opportunity to:
- Reflect on activities that I enjoyed partaking in when I was not working (playing poker, playing golf, giving back to my community and to children in need, and mentoring young professionals).
- Consider investing more time in these activities or adding some new ones.
- Review MasterClass offerings so I could get my feet wet trying new activities before diving in or simply learn something new. Have you ever listened to Matthew Walker’s The Science of Better Sleep?
- Have discussions with colleagues and friends in my peer group and those who had retired in the past few years to get their take on the good, the bad and even the ugly about retirement.
- Formulate a plan on what a typical week would look like for me post retirement and having it in place come January 1st.
As of today, my plan encompasses serving others by being involved in various capacities at four not-for-profit organizations, volunteering at a dog rescue and sanctuary and mentoring young professionals.
What I have learned besides having a plan
The decision to start the next chapter of my life a year earlier than required by my Firm’s partnership agreement was not made without discussions with my better half. I can recall asking several of the partners at my Firm who were approaching retirement if they had a discussion with their spouse/partner. Most of them looked at me like I had six heads. To shed some light on the subject, they had not taken into consideration that they were invading their partner’s space. One spouse I spoke to recently told me that they are terrified about their husband retiring. My wife, as she has always been, was most supportive.
One of the good things that came out of the pandemic (yes, you read that correctly) is that we had a dry run of what it would feel like, as none of us knew how long we would be working remotely. We are fortunate to have separate rooms that we call our home office and respect for each other’s space, though that did not simply happen on its own. Ongoing communication is one key to a successful second life.
A second lesson I learned is that the failure to stay engaged with others is unhealthy and definitely not a recipe for success, and, it is important to value your family and friends. That doesn’t preclude you, though, from being choosier with whom you spend your time.
Last, don’t stop learning. Engage in activities that provide the opportunity to study or try new hobbies, and activities to expand your knowledge and skills and gain a sense of accomplishment in retirement..